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I Will Flourish Into Who I Am Meant To Be

I’ve had kind of a heavy day. In truth, I’m in a heavy season. I’m sure to the outside world it probably looks like everything is just peachy, but the truth is there are a lot of struggles in my life right now.

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Trust is the Foundation

According to Andy Stanley, these verses from 1 Corinthians 13 are historically used for marriage vows; yet they were established as a guideline for us to love people.
I want to share the points he made which are critical for us to understand to know what this looks like and how to apply it!

The health of all relationships flows out of how we trust people! This will be determined on two things:
1. What we see
2. Who we are
Trust verses from this scripture
Verses 5-6
“Love delights in those doing the right thing”
verse 7
“Love always protects, hopes and perseveres”
1. Love protects the relationship – when it is the hardest, do everything to trust
2. Hope is the explanation of that
3. Love believes and endures all things
Summary is LOVE BENDS!
1.It gives the other person the benefit of the doubt
2. It always looks for the most generous explanation
3. Love chooses trust over suspicion

The core of great relationships is TRUST
WE all have expectations and experiences. But what is in the middle of those?
I love how Andy put it that there is a gap there and WE CHOOSE what to do in that gap
When we find ourselves seeing behavior that causes a gap, what do we do? WE CHOOSE–If we CHOOSE TRUST (Believing the Best) that is love. LOVE BENDS!
Andy shared much more . . .

Summary –
LOVE BENDS – DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO TO YOU. Luke 6:31
When you can’t choose to trust, LOVE CONFRONTS, but not in a mean way. Only through a loving, respectful, kind and gentle way!
Go to the person, share that you want to trust them, you want to understand and you keep the door open to the relationship.
If we do nothing, anger develops internally and becomes embedded to the point the relationship is severed. A wise man will BEND!

Five points Jesus asks us to commit to:
1. When you see the gap – I will believe the best
2. When Others assume the worst about you- I will come to your defense
3. If trust is eroding by experience – I will come directly to you
4. When I cant keep a promise – I will let you know ahead of time
5. When you confront me about gaps I have created – I’m going to tell you the truth!

These are great commitments for each of us to make.

THE FOUNDATION OF ALL RELATIONSHIPS IS TRUST!

Damaged Emotions and Healing

Depression is caused from infirmities and the concealing of ones sins. Sin is basically defined as something that hurts someone. Whether it is yourself or someone else that is being hurt, it causes a separation in your heart with God. It doesn’t mean God is not with you, it means you have possibly done something that separated you or there is a crippling of the mind due to damaged emotions that others have inflicted upon you. A direct indication of our emotions being damaged is in the presence of depression.  Depression is defined as:

According to Dictionary.com it is a condition of general emotional dejection and withdrawal; sadness greater and more prolonged than that warranted by any objective reason. A further description from a God perspective defines it as infirmities.

“Infirmities:

  • The Old Testament refers to infirmities as a blemish, a physical spot.
  • The New Testament refers to it as a negative from of sthenos which means strength.

If you add an “a”  in front of the word in greek that negates it.

A theist is someone who believes in God and an atheist is someone who does not believe in God, he is lacking in belief. In the same way, by adding an a to the word sthenos and resulting in  asthenos, we see this is defined as one who is lacking in strength, an infirmity, a crippling.

The word is hardly ever used in a purely physical sense in the New Testament. Rather, it refers to mental, moral and emotional weaknesses, to lack of strength. Infirmities in themselves are not sins, but they do undermine our resistance to temptation. In the NT infirmities are qualities in human nature which may predispose or incline us to sin, sometimes without any conscious choice on our part.” – Healing for Damaged Emotions-© 2004, David Seamands, page 38

“This was to fulfill what was spoken through the prophet Isaiah:  “He took up our infirmities
and carried our diseases.”
Matthew 8:17 (NIV)

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God’s will.” Romans 8:26-27 (NIV)

“During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission. Although he was a son, he learned obedience from what he suffered.” Hebrews 5:7-8 (NIV)

We have a tendency to think there is something wrong with us because we feel depressed.  Jesus taught us that God is with us always.  Even in our sufferings. Think about all that Jesus life involved while he was here on earth and how he went to the Father boldly praying for His strength and rescue.  We are instructed in the word of God to come to Him boldly.  This does not mean that we have to come to him in shame and defeat; we come to Him boldly and ask for Him to heal us from our infirmities! To reach down within the darkest and most hidden places of our hearts and gently rub the healing salve on our wounded hearts and crippled minds so we can begin to see the truth, and as His light shines into the darkness, be healed and move beyond them into greater purpose.

In addition to believing and asking God to help up, we can create disciplines in our lives which will work hand in hand with God to bring us along in our healing.

  • Look in the mirror and face your problem head on.
  • Take responsibility for the matter.
  • Honestly assess whether you want to heal  “

“When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, ‘Do you want to get well?”‘ John 5:6 (NIV

  • Forgive others – “But Joseph said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many.'” Genesis 50:19-20
  • Forgive yourself
  • Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you in the healing for your specific issues and ask how to pray for your healing. “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.” Romans 8:26 (NIV)
  • Ask others to pray with you.

When we seek God’s and others forgiveness, as a result of guilt and shame in our lives, we will begin to be lifted out of our depression.

Look at David and his sin with Bathsheba.  It was not until he confessed his sins of adultery with her that he began to heal.

“When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.” Psalms 32:3-4 (NIV)

  • Put your hope and trust in God when you are downcast.

Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will praise him, my savior and my God.” Psalms 42:5-6 (NIV)

We may experience some tough situations, but we can avoid long-term deeper depression.

“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down but not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 2:8-9 (NIV)

We do not lose heart. Thought outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an internal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not in what is seen, but on what is unseen, For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 (NIV)

When times are very difficult for me, I have learned to think back upon the times of how the apostle Paul was severely persecuted and how he overcame through the sustaining of His grace with an understanding of his deep need for dependency upon God in every aspect of his life.

Are they servants of Christ? (I am out of my mind to talk like this.) I am more. I have worked much harder, been in prison more frequently, been flogged more severely, and been exposed to death again and again. Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my own countrymen, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false brothers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked. Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches.” 2 Corinthians 11:23-28 (NIV)

God’s grace is unlimited and He is standing there waiting for us to depend on him.  His promises are that when we call upon his name, he will be there and he will answer our prayers.  Believing God will allow you to have eyes to see things you have never seen before. It will open your heart, eyes, and ears to opportunities which have been there all along, but because of blindness have been unseen!  God demonstrates for us, through the life of Jesus Christ, to keep our focus on Him.  When we do, we will see Him only, lose the consuming fire of our circumstances and have a freedom to live without depression that can be caused either by circumstances or separateness by sin.

“Why are you downcast, O my soul?  Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God,  for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.” Psalms 42:5a (NIV)